"Confinement" is a traditional custom that Chinese people have been circulating for a long time. It mostly refers to about one month after childbirth, allowing mothers to take good care of themselves during this period and bring their bodies back to their pre-pregnancy state. Many people in modern times choose to stay in a confinement center after childbirth. As long as the articles on the Internet appear on the Internet, "It is necessary to go to a confinement center" often start a war of netizens. A second mother shared her bloody experience on Dcard with "I am a Taiwanese girl, I require to stay in a confinement center". The first child was when the mother and daughter were tired and collapsed, and the second child could stay in a confinement center at home.
The first child is in confinement at "home"The original po recalled that the first child gave his mother the confinement at home. In that month, "I and my mother were so tired that they could not be human." Because the mother could not stay up late during the confinement period, the original po and her mother worked 24 hours a day, and the mother was in the middle of the night from 12 to 6 o'clock, and she was in the daytime and changed her mother to sleep. After just taking a bite, the baby cried, vomited milk, and shitted. At this time, he had to help him wash his butt and change his clothes immediately. After getting up at noon, my mother would help cook confinement meals, and in the afternoon, she would let me take a shower.
The little baby is born with the ability to drink, poop, vomit, and cry. He cries for no reason, and he will cry until his face turns purple. No matter how he coaxes the baby, he has no use, so he has to coax the baby with his mother. In addition to coaxing the baby, the nurse needs to be sucked regularly, and once every 4 hours. After sucking the baby, he has to drink milk again. Because the original pore has not eaten well and cannot sleep, the amount of milk is very small. Massage and massage on the side to stimulate the breasts. The whole milk is consumed almost an hour. The little baby will get tired soon after drinking breast milk. When the stomach is hungry, she will cry and scream, and she will keep stooling. She will pull at least 11 times a day. No matter how often the po changes his diapers, the little baby will also get red ass, which will cause stinging when peeing and defecation. After feeling the pain, she will burst into tears and exhale.
The original po finished eating, milking, cleaning bottles, disinfecting breastfeeding equipment, helping children to feed milk, burping, washing the child's butt, changing the diapers, and then starting to feed milk, cleaning the bottles, disinfect the breastfeeding equipment, helping children to feed milk, burping, and diapers, and keep doing these things. My mother also needs to help the baby take a bath, wash a bunch of clothes and milk-stained cloth towels that are stained with feces.
The original po felt that "the month when I was in confinement at home was not a person's time to pass by." He said that he had a nanny's care and his mother's mother was also a nanny. Two people could be so tired when they were in confinement at home, let alone people who had no experience at all. I thought it would not hurt again after production, but I was so scared of laughter! In addition to bleeding for the month after the childbirth, which causes you to often feel headaches when you don’t sleep well; you also have to face the pain of blocking breasts and breast milk, which is good at sensation and production. After production, the wound that is cut and the wound that is sucked and scabbed, and the wound that is not good and sucked is still present every day.
Because my husband works on weekdays, he doesn't ask him to stay up late to take care of his confinement period, so he comes to his parents' house to help him on holidays. He takes milk once and changes diapers on average in two days and 0 times.
The second child is in the "confinement center" and has a confinement period. Because her husband's salary is not enough, the original second child will pay a "full amount" to go to the confinement center to take confinement period, and choose the cheapest confinement center, which costs 120,000 yuan for 30 days. Although the room is very small, the original po doesn't care at all, just wants to survive. The second child did not want to harm her mother's mother anymore. She couldn't afford to stay up late when she was old. When her first child was busy with confinement, her physical strength became worse and worse.
The original po is in the confinement center. As long as he is responsible for "eating, picking up milk, and feeding milk", he pushes the baby to feed milk during the day, and I take a shower and sleep at night. This kind of life allows the original po to know what confinement is called.
After two confinement periods (the first child is at home and the second child is at the confinement center), the original po said with emotion that the child is a girl giving birth, the production is a girl giving birth, and the milk is a girl giving birth. If the girl wants to live in the confinement center, it is also a girl giving birth, so these useless boys should be fucked.
For those boys who "even the confinement centers are reluctant to let their wives live, and think that the confinement centers are just products that show off with Gu Mi", the original po is willing to not have children, and do not think that it seems to be so harmful to have a mouth or sperm.
A post on "I require staying in the confinement center" has attracted support from many netizens to support women to take confinement in the confinement center after the confinement center. "A husband said that after reading it, I was more sure that I would save my wife the money in the month of the month. It would be great to live for her." "It's really amazing to see your first child's experience!" "I would like to pay all the fees and don't want to endure those pains, changes in physical and mental spirit, changes in body shape, and problems with patterns", "Push! I feel so cute after reading it! Baby is super scary! It’s also important to choose a good teammate, “I’m just like you, and my first child goes back to my parents’ home for confinement, and the whole family is so tired! The second child fails and stays in the middle of the month.” “If the future husband dares to say what kind of confinement is done at home, I will definitely do it at my in-laws’ home, and my mother-in-law is so tired that she will be tired.”
Some netizens also expressed their dissatisfaction that the money in the confinement center is actually the father who helps him "he" to pay, not his wife.. "Do you think it's a "help" girl to prepare for the confinement center? No, for the woman who is still bleeding and recovering from the wounds after giving birth, boys are responsible for taking care of their wives and baby during this period. The middle of the month just outsourcing what you were supposed to do. It's clear that this money is spent on yourself. Why did it be pushed to the girl? So you shouldn't say it's a "help" wife to prepare for the middle of the month, but to pay for the money to prepare for the preparation of the "help" yourself" That’s right! Take responsibility and don’t push the reasons to girls?”, “The confinement center is not just for girls to relax! My husband can live in together! There are also the most important newborns who have specialists to help take care of! The family of three lives together, why do you say it’s a girl? You think that only women are happy in the confinement center, because you didn’t plan to treat children with your wife from the beginning, but just think that it’s a woman’s job.”
Some netizens called out that if the money was not enough, it would be very hard for both parties. Having children is a matter that the couple should be responsible for together. "Girls have no annual salary of 1.5 million not to have children. Before getting married, they have to discuss how to allocate money and leave their own way and face." "For those who feel pressured in the middle of the month, I sincerely suggest that they should consider whether to have children. I saved a deposit before marriage and prepared to sell my wife from pregnancy to mid-month period, telling her that she will live in the future. Have a good rest in the middle of the month", "If you can't sit down during the confinement period, don't ask your wife to give birth. Organs are displaced, will be cut, and bone loss. Which one does pregnant men need to bear? The intensive care of body injury is misinterpreted as the social weight between women." Some netizens also teased and said, "Price is not the shortcoming of the month, but your shortcoming!"
But some netizens also asked questions, "Why are European and American women not asking to go to the confinement center?" As soon as this question was raised, it was banned by a large number of netizens. "It is called post-production care abroad, and it is called confinement in Taiwan. There are many foreign birth leave, so the teacher will ask for leave and care together. Confinement is the recovery of the nurse + the running-in of the newborn. Strictly speaking, the confinement center is outsourcing the responsibility of the father, but most Taiwanese men think that the mid-month period is a place for their wives to go on vacation." "Because foreign wives are responsible for milk after producing, the father is responsible. Taiwan's mid-month period is responsible for milk production, and the majority of the father is responsible. Basically, it is a replacement for the job of a foreign father. To the end, as long as you are strong, you can work to sleep less than 2 hours a day. In fact, it doesn’t take the middle of the month, but the premise is... Can you?", "If you are paying attention to Europe and the United States, you will know that the fathers there are very child-rearing concepts. They will go to class together after the birth, and they will also ask to accompany the child at home during the birth leave, but most Taiwanese men don’t want to pay and don’t want to pay."
For at-home or to go to a confinement center, each family has different needs and options. The following are the 3 methods of confinement:
1. Confinement center: The confinement center can provide professional caregivers and confinement meals, so that the nurse can get sufficient rest and care. In addition, you can also recognize other manufacturers and establish each other's support system.
2. Ask your family to take the confinement at home: taking the confinement at home can allow the nurse to be with his family and enjoy a quiet and warm atmosphere. In addition, you can also adjust your drink and life habits according to your personal needs and preferences.
3. Please go to your confinement nanny home for confinement: If no one in the family can help take care of the nurse and the newborn, you can consider inviting the confinement nanny to help. The confinement nanny can provide professional care and care so that the nurse and family can rest with confidence.
The most important thing is to choose according to personal needs and circumstances, and it does not need to be subject to external pressure and influence. If you can take good care of yourself and your children during confinement at home, then sit at home; if you need professional care and care, then go to the confinement center; the key is to allow the nurses and newborns to receive sufficient care and rest.
6 ways to convince "confinement center"If the nurse wants to make her husband agree to go to the confinement center for confinement, you can consider the following 6 methods:
1. Provide relevant information: collect relevant information about the confinement center, such as service content, professional caregivers, medical equipment, etc., and explain their benefits. With clear and clear information, my husband understands that the confinement center can provide better care and help moms recover faster.
2. Believe in health: Let your husband know that the child needs enough rest and care during the confinement period. If the husband pays attention to the health of his mother and baby, he should agree to go to the confinement center for confinement, because better medical care and care can be provided there.
3.Communicate with doctors: Try to explain the precautions during the confinement period and why it is safer to be in a confinement center than at home. This may make my husband more likely to accept because he knows it was suggested by the doctor.
4. Let your husband visit the confinement center: If you have the opportunity, you can take your husband to visit the confinement center, let him see the facilities and environment there, and how the caregivers take care of their parents and babies.
5. Ask for family support: Ask for support from mother-in-law, parents or other relatives. If someone can support your decision, your husband may be more accepting.
6.Consistency: Finally, if your husband still disagrees, or cannot afford the expenses of the confinement center, you can pay for it yourself to go to the confinement center. Or consider taking confinement at home, but you can consider asking someone else such as a nanny or confinement nanny to help you take care of it. This can at least reduce the burden of novice mothers.
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