I am 56 years old and I have been in middle-aged for 3 years. I finally got out of the pain of my husband. Now I have found a partner who I think can live with. He has given me a lot of love and concern. Many people think that they are already 50 years old and don’t get married, but we all think that it is good to have married life. But I have 2 children, one is 27 years old and the other is 18 years old. Since I seem to be a little short of my ex-husband’s death, I want to remarry. In addition, the other party is 5 years younger than me, and I worry about my children’s feelings, so it’s hard to get angry. What should I do? (Miss Qi in Taoyuan) The popular Netflix drama "Mom, stop being so angry!", which was broadcast some time ago, tells the story of the 60-year-old mother let go of her grief and looking for a second spring. The daughter almost fainted after hearing this! The topic of "remarrying for mature people" is in full swing. In the drama, Billie plays a mother who pursues love, which is humorous and absurd, which arouses a lot of common people. In fact, many people in life want to remarry, but it is difficult to speak out because of the feelings of their children. Psychologists point out that when a mature person remarries, children are not worried about their feelings, because remarriage at an old age involves more things, which is different from a young second marriage.
{9 It will affect family member Lin Weijun, a clinical psychologist at the Department of Blood and Hygiene Cancer at Chimei Hospital, said that although marriage itself is based on love, it is actually a formal legal relationship and will join the two-party network. "Personal decisions will involve other people's lives." In medical clinics, many books that require consent will affect key medical decisions, such as removing the nasogastric tube. Therefore, even if many mature people have new objects, they may not get married. They should confirm the relationship by "taking photos and taking souvenirs" and just live together.Lin Weijun said that some people are brave enough to enter marriage because they hope to have a safe family and be famous, but remarriage for mature people is like a sandwich stuck in the middle. If the children do not trust their new family members, they will have doubts.
Accepting new members The key is to remarry when you are a mature person. It is very important whether you can give the other party’s family a trustworthy person. Lin Weijun pointed out that especially if the child is in his teenage years, he is called "multiple fathers". He will think in his heart: "Will you be my parents? Will you care about me more?", "Can you become a helper at home or become troublesome?" Just like some children will encounter some situations, mothers and lovers are siblings, and the other party has poor economic abilities and eats soft food, causing the family to suffer."Because you don't know what the other party is, you will worry about being cheated." This may also be a question for many parents to remarry and their children will be suspicious. Some of them have been familiar with each other for a long time. When they meet someone who shows love, they feel shocked and happy. They have not seen each other once and fall into the emotional trap. At this time, the child is grown up and mature, and it may be because they do not know their parents' partner and are guarded based on their desire to protect them.
Keep social circle and communicate more with your children. Lin Weijun said that some adults in their 5s and 60s will have a "teenage feeling" and want to make their own decisions and do not want their children to interfere. But if the familiar group maintains circulating relationships, it is better to have your own social circle. For example, share your relationship with friends. If the other party feels that something is different, why will you teach you how to make money without meeting it, and will remind you, "Will you be cheated!" If you hide it and face it yourself, the judgment will be vague.She suggested that she could share more points of love life with her family, "talk about how to recognize and interact with each other." When children participate more often, young people will know more about social trends, which can help their parents make judgments, and when they face their own decisions, it is easier for them to accept it because they already have a certain understanding of the other party.