You can do this if you are abused by your mother-in-law In this society, there are really many mother-in-laws. When I got married, I didn't give a penny to my daughter-in-law. As a result, my son had an affair and my daughter-in-law asked to divorce, my mother-in-law actually said, "Send the microwave we sent you back." There is another case where a mother-in-law who has money bought a house. Although she gave pocket money every month, she said to her daughter-in-law, "Remember that these are all our money." Then she pressed the door every day and tracked the flow of money from her daughter-in-law. Anyone who hears these "unwritten mother-in-law actions" will get angry.
Compared with clearly visible violence, what is even more terrifying is "invisible violence".
The most terrifying thing is the continuous drama of "Mother-in-law's Word Violence" in daily life. The Internet once circulated an article titled "I was almost forced to get mad at the goal of beating my mother-in-law", with a cumulative amount of more than 3,000 messages, reflecting the current situation of "daughters-in-law" being generally faced. I was no exception. I heard my mother-in-law say, "You are so short, why does your penis protrude?" I was so angry that I wrote this article, how to deal with my mother-in-law's words and violence.
Don't do nothing when you first get violent. I gradually understood something when I was chasing the drama. The answer is actually surprisingly simple. For our daughters-in-law, our face needs to be thicker. When the maternal grandma was willing to slap you with kimchi, you must be able to grab her neck. I am not a wise and thoughtful daughter-in-law type, but I am closer to a "two-year-old child" who is polite and unobstructed. When you are still worried about hurting your mother-in-law and are afraid of being disrespectful to her, you will take action first, and you can only pound the wall there afterwards.Let go of what kind of good daughter-in-law image to maintain! Please hypnotize yourself repeatedly: "I am Lu Mang's guy, I am Lu Mang's guy." Just wearing such a strong and powerful mask will make you feel inexplicable freedom.
If you hear what my mother-in-law said, it’s scary to the point where your brain is blank and don’t know how to respond, the best way is to directly recount what she said. For example, when you send the prepared kimchi and call your mother-in-law if you have received it, you hear her mother-in-law answer: "Oh! Yes! It seems that you can eat it." At this time, you don't need to get angry or suppress yourself. As much as possible, he laughed and replied, "Oh! Does it seem like you can still eat it? Wow~ I'm really happy that you said this!" Like this, he deliberately mocked her and used her seemingly polite thanks to her for being unworthy. Remember, you must first intercept what she wants to continue, which can also prevent you from leaving any hurt in your heart.
Asking and silence are also good strategies Another way is to ask. This is more harmful than sarcasm and can be used when the other party wants you to be unable to. For example, on my mother-in-law's birthday, I prepared the sun lens. Although she didn't expect to be praised, her mother-in-law said, "Oh~ Who is this for? Why is it so vulgar?"
Then she replied to her: "Mom, this is for you. Mom should just like this, right?" She had to answer that question positively and then ended with the question. If the mother-in-law doesn't respond again, it means that she is still ashamed. However, if she still answers "There are some vulgar ones!", just take back the gift! It means that she doesn't understand the basic "Greetings" and you should keep your relationship in mind!
And in some situations, I would recommend you to remain silent.
This method is very useful when my mother-in-law attacks my family in my face. In today's era of nurturing, I heard that many mothers-in-law don't say that they are helping, and they will also talk about this kind of storm: "The family has always said that they want to come to see the children. It seems that they need money, right?" There is a lot of insults behind it, and even if you slightly compensate your daughter-in-law's family, it feels a pity.
At this time, please cheer up your courage, calmly gazed at her and blinked for a few seconds, and lasted for about two or three seconds, so that she could realize "Oh! I seemed to be saying something wrong!" Then, ignore her. There is no need to waste your lips and tongue for her.
Sometimes I have to pretend to agree to her.
If the mother-in-law says to the daughter-in-law who is caring for her children at home, "Don't just spend the hard money that Mr. earns, go out and make some money!" Or when you and your sister-in-law are in front of you, "No need to be much, just give her a million Korean dollars a month."
If you answer this seriously, there will be a conflict, so give her strong consent. The key point at this time was that her face was a little thicker and she agreed without brainstormingly: "Yes! I'm just a mizuna." "My sister-in-law needs one million pocket money, ah, I need it too!" Otherwise, she would laugh and take a look: "Hahahaha!" and then let the request pass away.
My favorite writer Zheng Wenzheng also has similar stories in his book "Smiling to the Giftless Man". After reading it, I found that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problem was just a problem that arises from "noble people". For example, I also have a son, and in the future I will become someone else's mother-in-law. As long as ordinary people enter the stage of "mother-in-law", it seems to be a bit strange, so I want to challenge whether the battle can break this cycle, and I hope that everyone who may become a mother-in-law in the future can challenge together and try to create different ends. I long to achieve change because this is the value of living in this world.
I am so dreaming: Even the daughter-in-law who is now forced to be a "good mother-in-law" in the future.
Trying to practice with impatience 1) If you usually watch TV dramas, try to imagine that you are a character in the drama, and when you encounter violence in words, you might as well borrow their characteristics to respond:
・If you are Yanmin in "The Confrontation" (also known as: I am Zhang Baoli): A fierce woman who kills people with her eyes. If you are Chen Zhenxi in "Sky City": Sometimes you will lose control. If you are Jin Shu in "Home With You 2: Best Love": The Crazy Crazy Crazy
2) You are now an editor of the 8-point document of the red and bloody . Please fill in the appropriate "question sentences" in the following situations. Mother-in-law: Have your dad and mother taught you how to peel fruits? Daughter-in-law: (
Book introduction
Book name: This time, I don't want to be patient anymore: I don't have to be a 100-point mother, a good wife, or a good employee, and can live a comfortable life of 42 "unbearable" practices
Author: Lee Chengzhu
Publisher: Apple House
Publishing Date: 2020/12/10
Author Introduction/Li Chengzhu
Born in a comradeship family, I once thought that I could survive in this world by relying on kindness and integrity. He graduated from the Department of Lihua Women's University of China Literature and is currently an advertiser, who has produced popular advertisements such as "Eight Dao Wang Li Ba Noodles" (Kim Jun-chan), "Coca-Cola Cool Vitamin Water Show your color Campaign" (Kim Jin-tai), etc.
I was over twenty years old and walked into the wind and rain after I was thirty. After the family's interference in the name of "it's all for your own good", the life of living in a mental hospital, and the collapse of childbirth, the anger in the heart was like an active volcano. One day I heard that the doctor diagnosed that he might have cancer, so I decided to cheer up and no longer bear to swallow my voice. In order to save money from the red bag of money for every fortune teller, I started writing. The first work, "Why Do You Want to Talk about Love" (the Chinese translation is still available), tells the story of love that always falls on the weak. This book tells the true appearance of a married woman in life.
Like jokes and cream bread, the dream of the future is to become more positive than anyone else, making the world more exciting.